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April 27, 2006
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Pinings: Making connnections Dear Sherry, I don?t know ? I?ve lived many places and never had a problem until Litchfield.?Is it me or is it them??They?re so boring and complaining and they always want something (like free babysitting, or selling you stuff). Maybe it?s better off to have no friends than bad friends? I?m sick of being lonely in Litchfield.?It?s like the twilight zone. If it wasn?t so creepy, I guess it would be kind of funny.?What would you do if you were me? Lonely in Litchfield, Carol, All kidding aside, and the above was meant as a joke, although ?well, it?s pretty much the truth, you have two choices: change your tactics or move to a different place. I have to tell you, though, after reading your letter, it?s fairly clear to me why you aren?t able to feel as if you belong. You refer to these people as boring and complaining, you are glad you were kicked out of the women?s club (what on Earth did you do? Did you refuse to bring a snack or something?) It doesn?t sound like you like these people anyway. I?m in sync with you on the ?selling stuff? part. Whenever anyone has approached me to attend something social which later becomes some weird pyramid scheme, I?m pretty offended. It tells me that my friendship isn?t enough; they also want me to go out and schlub products to make money for them. Like that?s gonna happen. And I?m not really much of a babysitter. I don?t have kids for a reason. I will watch someone?s kids occasionally, but only for a short period of time and only if I really love the kid and the parents. Oh, ditto goes for house-, dog- or cat-sitting. But all of that aside, are you an abrasive person? Could your personality need some smoothing out? There have to be people in Litchfield who are looking for new pals that you have something in common with. How about a book club? Are you a reader? Or maybe you can volunteer at the local animal shelter if you are a pet lover. Three suggestions: 1.Take a serious look in the mirror and see if you can identify any characteristics that others may not like about you. Be honest and serious when you are doing this. 2. Seriously consider talking to a life coach or therapist about this. They may give you the advice you are looking for. 3. Move. Sherry Hughes welcomes letters from readers at sah103@hotmail.com Comments??Thoughts? Discuss this article and more at hippoflea.com |
 
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