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May 25, 2006
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Pinings: Lovey dovey couple I received a letter from a woman who didn’t want her name used. She didn’t actually want her letter used either; she just wanted me to discuss her problem. It’s a problem some of us have had in the past and even though it’s not life-changing or deathly, it’s, well, challenging. The problem is PDA, public displays of affection. This woman is not a touchy-feeling kind of gal. She is passionate, she says, and loves everything about her physical relationship with her lover. He, however, wants to kiss and hug her, hold her hand and put his hands on her whenever they are together, which includes when they are out in public. She is embarrassed by his … clutches, as she calls them, and he is hurt when she shrugs him off or pushes him away. They are at an impasse with the issue and don’t quite know how to resolve it. She loves him dearly and, as I mentioned, is hot for him in every way. He, however, feels as if she is ashamed to show her love for him. I went out with someone once who was a horrible kisser. There was way too much tongue and spit going on and, well, there was nothing romantic about it. I found myself avoiding the kisses. And yes, I was in love with this person. Rather than create any animosity, I decided to look at the situation as a learning experience … for both of us. Our reader should do the same. She can learn how to be a bit more accepting of public affection and he can learn how to be a little less aggressive about it. And I don’t think he is aggressive at all, he’s just being himself. They should look at this as an opportunity to compromise. If they intend to stay a couple, they’ll need to learn this tool and use it frequently anyway. They can go out and maybe just hold hands on the way to the car. Perhaps she can sneak a kiss on the cheek to him when she gets up to go use the restroom at dinner. Or they could go to a movie and make out during the credits at the end only. This shouldn’t be an all-or-nothing situation. It’s always best to find a win/win situation if possible.. Sherry Hughes welcomes letters from readers at sah103@hotmail.com Comments? Thoughts? Discuss this article and more at hippoflea.com |
 
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