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October 26, 2006
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Pinings: Boozy boys Dear Sherry, He hasn’t been violent with me but even after only a few months, I’m ready to break things off with him. He drinks every day and I think he’s doing drugs, too (he gets way too wasted to just be having the couple of beers he’s telling me he’s having.) I don’t know what to do. I want to just get out of this mess because he is dragging me down. I’m tired of being with someone who is under the influence most of the time. Part of me wants to stay and ask him to get help. I feel disloyal to just walk away without at least trying to help him. Jessica Dear Jessica, Pay attention to what his mother is telling you. She seems to know what he’s capable of. You can, of course, give him an opportunity to get sober and tell him that if he stops using, you’ll be willing to continue having a relationship. You can offer to attend support groups or counseling with him. But this is the key: he will only stop when he wants to regardless of what you say or do. My suggestion is that you take care of you. I really believe that when the pain gets great enough, we make changes in our lives. That goes for you and for him. Sherry Hughes welcomes letters from readers at sah103@hotmail.com Comments? Thoughts? Discuss this article and more at hippoflea.com |
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