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Michael and Sarah Bennett talk about F*** Love

Where: Gibson’s Bookstore, 45 S. Main St., Concord
When: Saturday, Feb. 4, at 4 p.m.
Contact: gibsonsbookstore.com, 224-0562




Romance schmomance
Michael and Sarah Bennett get real

02/02/17
By Kelly Sennott ksennott@hippopress.com



 Romance, passion — what a load of crap.

So say father-daughter author team Michael and Sarah Bennett in their new book, F*** Love: One Shrink’s Sensible Advice for Finding a Lasting Relationship, published Jan. 31 by Simon & Schuster, which they talk about at Gibson’s Bookstore Saturday, Feb. 4, at 4 p.m.
It’s the follow-up to their first collaboration, F*** Feelings: One Shrink’s Practical Advice for Managing All Life’s Impossible Problems, published in September 2015. Michael Bennett, a veteran psychiatrist and APA Distinguished Fellow educated at Harvard College and Harvard Medical School, provided the expertise, and Sarah Bennett, a comedy writer who spent two years working for the Upright Citizens Brigade Theater in New York, edited his advice and translated it to the page.
This first book garnered positive reception and opened the door for more book possibilities.
“We thought we could take it further in one direction and address relationships, particularly at the way you’d search for a partner,” Michael Bennett said via phone.
F*** Love argues that finding a partner should be more like a business deal than a candlelight dinner, and it focuses on eight traits that people tend to seek out in relationships: charisma, beauty, chemistry, communication, a sense of humor, good family, intelligence and wealth. In the book, the Bennetts point out the influence of these traits and how to overcome being blinded by them.
“Almost any quality you look at, you have to be careful about it. There’s no one single quality that should eliminate all doubt,” Michael Bennett said. “You might be lonely, and you might be horny, but if you let your feelings take over, including your love of romance, you’re likely to make bad choices. … If people could be more disciplined and pragmatic in the beginning, they could save themselves so much trouble.”
Michael Bennett lives in Boston with his wife, and Sarah Bennett lives in New York, but they both frequent New Hampshire regularly. They wrote the book via phone calls and emails.
The partnership worked because of how well they know each other. Sarah Bennett grew up listening to her parents talk about work (both are in the same field) and understands her father’s dark humor, even if it doesn’t come across on the first draft. She’s the one responsible for the flow charts and Cosmo-like quizzes dispersed throughout the pages.
Some of the topics: Where is your partner on the charisma scale? Should you go out with this person? And, is laughter distracting you from the warning signs?
“They’re tongue-in-cheek and kind of ridiculous but are meant to help people laugh and learn something at the same time,” she said.
They’d like to work on another book together, maybe aimed at kids, as Michael Bennett was trained as a child psychiatrist and Sarah Bennett said she’s still a kid at heart. In the meantime, they’re eager to hear responses to F*** Love — particularly this time of year.
“People really love books about relationship. Having this released on Valentine’s Day is our little fun joke — though the book is not a joke,” Sarah Bennett said. 





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